After my last post, someone I know read it and said, “I don’t play any more, because I’m afraid of annoying the neighbors. I live in an apartment.”
My first thought was, “I’ve been there. Know exactly what you mean.”
But then I thought, it’s a trap. On the one hand, you really could be concerned about the ears of your neighbors. And probably, it’s tied to some negative self talk about “I’m not very good.” This is a vicious trap.
On the other hand — when you reach the point that playing music is something you do FOR YOURSELF — you’ll find a way to play. It’s either “Neighbors be damned” or “I’ll find a place where I CAN play as loud and as long as I want” – like a park, a church, or some other public or semi-public space.
Of course, both go back to the central problem. Once you’re out of the school system, it can be awful hard to find people to play WITH, or find the companionship or support that keeps music alive in our lives.